Business Relationships

Once You Can Fake Sincerity You've Got It Made....

I am amazed by the number of people who act as if they believe this….the fake smiles….the insincere comments….the lack of integrity.  Yet, some seem to believe that this is the way to build relationships.  Obviously, there are several problems with this approach.

First, they confuse personal relationships with business relationships.  While having good personal relationships can be a very important part of a quality b2b relationship, it is only one part.

Second, they seem to think that people can’t see through them.  In my experience, most people cannot be fooled for very long.

Good relationships are built on trust and reciprocity.  If either party is insincere, it won’t be long before that insincerity will interfere with, if not destroy, the relationship.

My advice is to be yourself, be direct and be honest.  If what you say doesn’t match what you do, you will lose their trust and undermine the entire relationship.

Comments




  • To me, trust is like a catalyst.  You can have all the chemicals needed, but there is no reaction unless the catalyst is present.  I think the same is true of business relationships: you can say all the right things, have all the right processes and systems in place, agree on common goals, etc., but without trust the relationship will not generate the desired outcome.  In fact, it could just fizzle and die.  So, I believe that trust is the necessary ingredient to make things happen.

    WesMayer, 3 years ago | Flag
  • Does anyone have an example of how building trust really helped in a critical situation?

    SteveV, 3 years ago | Flag
  • We continue to encounter graduates of the Willy Loman school of relationships.  It still all comes down to walking the walk, doesn't it?

    artvanbodegraven, 3 years ago | Flag
  • Wes: I sincerely agree with what you've said in this blog entry! 

    MKuehn, 3 years ago | Flag
  • Wes, I really appreciate your emphasis on having authentic business relationships. Your emphasis on doing what you say is really important!  We probably ultimately pay more attention to what people do than what they say. Thanks.

    salliesherman, 3 years ago | Flag

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